Ep. 209: State of Pride 2025

EQ: What’s the state of Pride in 2025 and how are the vibes?

Happy Pride! Every June, all the LGBTQ+ people who spend the rest of the year doing stuff like commuting to work and spending quality time with family and friends and engaging in hobbies and going to the gym and agonizing over what to cook for dinner before settling on spaghetti because we already have it in the pantry. LGBTQ+ people still do all of those things, but with more rainbows.

In this episode of IWL, we start by unpacking Target’s Pride meltdown— from cutting its DEI programs to putting out a collection that feels more “in the closet” than celebratory. Brands are dialing back their Pride campaigns, worried about backlash from the right, and it shows in the uninspiring merch, reduced donations, and a lot less visibility for LGBTQ+ people. You may want to read The Year Pride Went Beige. We also get into the ridiculous false choices we’re presented with such as why we shouldn’t celebrate Pride because it’s Men’s Mental Health Month and other nonsense. We touch on something close to home for many in the community: biphobia. There’s been controversy this year around a few well-known bisexual figures, and it highlights how much we still need to do to confront harmful attitudes within our own spaces.

Do Your Fudging Homework:

  • Annie: living in ignorance is unsexy in 2025, so it’s time to do some reading about how the first Pride celebration was actually a riot and discover what responsibilities Americans, both LGBTQ+ and allies, have in the fight for queer issues which, consequently, affect the rights of straight people, too, especially the right to privacy. Get learnin’, everybody. 

  • Hope: The Broposal, Sonora Reyes! 

  • Megan: Look up the legislation that has passed regarding LGBTQIA+

Ep. 22: That's Pinteresting!

EQ: To what extent has Pinterest influenced the creativity of the modern women/men and specifically educators? When is Pinterest too much or just enough?

Guest: Cat Melaunie (Melani), middle school teacher, education activist, and general badass. She’s a Texas native and Washington transplant with a degree in English LA & Writing and minors in psychology and education from McMurry University.  She currently works in education in Washington and is a freelance writer, including writing for the Nerdfarmer Podcast. She hosts local trivia, emcees events, and volunteers all the time! Also, she has a guinea pig named Obiwan Guinobi who loves to dress up.

Cat’s Story:

  • Her move from Texas to Washington, inspired by her best friend relocating and being RIF’d/laid off from her teaching job (Texas is a “right to work” state) because of her sexual orientation.  SHAME BELL.
  • Everything she loves about her college, small hometown, and Tacoma.
  • Full-time subbing in Tacoma and the differences between teaching in Texas and teaching in Washington: being 100% “on” all the time vs. being herself and “blending her worlds.”
  • Accidentally coming out to students. Spoiler: it’s funny and not awful.
  • Saying “no” for a long time and learning how to say “yes” to beautiful new experiences.
  • Being Hispanic and finding out she was a person of color, including her different experiences in Texas and Washington.
  • Watching Starbelly Sneetches with her students to teach them about how to be kind.

Segway: Pinterest...your favorite thing or your most favorite thing?

For the uninitiated, Pinterest is basically an online corkboard where you collect pictures of things you like from the internet - the pictures are usually connected to a link.  Cat describes it as the ancient art of finding great ideas that other great people found before you. It’s possible to scroll through Pinterest for 1,000 hours and not know what happened.

  • Pinterest board numbers: Hope stopped counting at 30, Cat has 30, and Annie has...102. Hope has cleverly named boards about teaching, working out, and books worth reading.  Cat has a mermaid board, treats board, hair board, and two for Harry Potter - memes and HP stuff. Plus - Star Wars wedding. Annie has so many that it’s hard to pick a fave.
  • Pinterest is renowned for its massive collection of recipes. Hope is doing the keto thing, Annie is vegan, so we decided to try and find something that everyone could eat. Annie made these.  They’re not a total fail!  Hope participated in the adventure, too - coconut milk chocolate mousse. It wouldn’t blend but it was delicious.

Bad advice from Pinterest!

  • Flowery background with “bloom where you’re planted” - worse than “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”
  • Rustic junk like beach trash with inspirational quotes.
  • The whole fitspo situation. You used to see a lot of “thinspo” or “thinspiration,” now its “fitspo” or “fitness inspiration,” which basically glorifies abs and squat challenges.  Plus the before and after weight loss pictures.
  • Not exactly bad advice, but you can’t go on Pinterest without seeing white women all over the place using Starbucks cups as accessories.  The Starbucks cup is the new tiny dog in a purse.
  • CAT WROTE US SOME POEMS ABOUT PINTEREST, including a limerick and a poem on the spot.  It was impressive.
  • Men also enjoy Pinterest, especially posting pictures of their beards and beards they think are awesome.
  • While it’s a social media platform, Pinterest is also a consumer trap.

Guilty-Favesies:

  • These are things that you make feel “guilty” about but are secretly or not so secretly favesies.
  • Annie: looking for government jobs so she can be like Leslie Knope.
  • Cat: comic books - but not so guilty. Eating fried chicken and drinking cheap beer in a bubble bath. Netflix (laptop on the toilet - not over the tub. Don’t electrocute yourself).
  • Hope: Diet Pepsi with a Twix bar.

Do Your Fudging Homework:

  • Annie: Google “Pinterest Fails” and remind yourself that no one has a perfectly curated Pinterest life and that FAIL stands for “first attempt in learning.”
  • Cat: say “yes’ to new experiences.  It will change your life.
  • Hope: follow Cat’s guinea pig on Pinterest and make it out to the Black Kettle on Thursdays at 7:30 for trivia.

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Ep. 14: Treat Others With Dignity Even if You Disagree

Guest: Lisa Keating from My Purple Umbrella

This amazing women tells the story of how she went from being a massage therapist with a gift for crafting to becoming an advocate for LGBTQ+ rights in WA state through her nonprofit, My Purple Umbrella. Ideas referenced in the show:

  • HB2661 Anderson- Murray Background
  • HIB details; HIB Resources from Tacoma Public Schools
  • Teaching conflict management for kids Pre-K through 5th grade--Kelso’s  Choice
  • SCDM - each school building has a committee that works on school-wide initiatives. It’s a great place to start if you want to make positive change happen in local schools.
  • Language changes over time, be patient with the process and also have grace for yourself and others
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Timeless or Terrible: Tanning

 

 

 

Do Your Fudging Homework:

  • Lisa: Check out My Purple Umbrella’s book club - the Queerest Book Club Ever - at King’s Books on the first Monday of each month. The book for March is Queer: a Graphic History by Meg-John Barker.
  • Annie: One Teacher in Ten, edited by Kevin Jennings and 50 Queers Who Changed the World by Daniel Jones.
  • Hope: YA books! Simon vs. the Homosapien Agenda by Becky Albertalli, None of the Above by I.W. Gregorio and If I Was Your Girl by Meredith Russo.